English Vocab

Why it is Important to Manage Anger

“Youth is the pollen that blows through the sky and does not ask why”. This line by Vincent Benet holds true in letter and spirit for India’s demographics. India has more than half of its population below the age of 25 and more than 65 per cent below the age of 35. The average age of an Indian is below 29 years.

But this young and vibrant democracy is undergoing a peculiar (different to what is normal or expected; strange) problem which might take the shape of a monster in the future. The signs of its tumultuous (highly agitated, as the mind

or emotions; distraught; turbulent) nature have already started appearing. This is the problem of uncontrolled growing anger amongst the youth of our country. This anger is non-channelised, refractory and often turbulent.

India has been known for its rich culture since ages. From Gautam Buddha to Mahatma Gandhi, we had been the land of peace and non-violence. Today teenagers are the worst sufferers and impulsively often resort to actions which cannot be corrected.

Educators, practitioners and counsellors get cases of children often referred as incorrigible. The news of a teenage girl stabbing (to wound or pierce by the thrust of a pointed object or weapon) a first standard child in a Lucknow school shakes us to our roots. Last year witnessed numerous such cases including the most infamous case of a Gurugram school. These incidents should not be studied as standalone cases but as the reflection of the silent churning (to stir or agitate violently) of our society.

Anger is a natural emotion but uncontrolled anger is a threat to humanity. Anger breeds when things don’t go as per our desire. At initial stages it’s the desire for miniscule objects later identifying with money, power, prestige, ego and relationships. Unrestrictive anger breeds intolerance and its inception is trickling down day by day reaching the youngest of the lot.

Intermittent (occurring at irregular intervals; not continuous or steady) explosive disorder (IED) is an impulse-control disorder characterised by sudden episodes of unwarranted anger. The disorder is typified by hostility, impulsivity and recurrent aggressive outbursts. People with IED essentially “explode” into a rage despite a lack of apparent provocation (something that incites, instigates, angers, or irritates) or reason. The recent episode of a government officer going berserk and massacring six innocent people in Palwal falls under this category. He was a university topper and had proven track record.

The point to ponder here is the origin of his problem and not the consequences. Psychiatrists view that these actions are the result of chronic stage of emotions taking the shape of a disease. It is the result of neglect of initial symptoms of betrayal anddefiance (a daring or bold resistance to authority or to any opposing force).

Youngsters of today’s India are sitting on a volcano of rampant anger which has already started showing signs of eruption. Sudden burst of anger on issues like a release of a movie, mismatch of political thoughts, choices of sexual orientations, caste issues, showcasing of patriotism, animal welfare, troubled relationships etc. both in the real and virtual world are an alarm for our society. Most people shirk (to avoid doing something especially because of laziness, fear, or dislike) away from accepting what they are going through. This constant denial breeds in them emotions that are highly dangerous. Mahatma Gandhi rightly said anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding.

Anger cannot be eliminated from human lives as it is a natural emotion, but it can definitely be controlled and channelized. Prolonged anger leads to scheming forvengeance (infliction of injury, harm, humiliation, or the like, on a person by another who has been harmed by that person; violent revenge) and criminal activities. The sudden splurge (a large or excessive amount of something) of anger is a result of lack of acceptance among youngsters. It is the high time we should take this seriously before the monster takes its grip. Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

We should teach our kids anger management and prevent this anger volcano from bursting out. The board and universities should act on this call of the hour and introduce anger management for all kids. Management of anger is of utmost importance since childhood. Children should be taught through anecdotes.

One such is about the anger management of Mahatma Gandhi. In South Africa, when he was thrown out of the train by the Britishers, it is not as if Gandhi didn’t get angry. He was exasperated, but he channelised his boil through non-violence and the rest is history.

Renowned counsellor-psychologist Vikas Attry who deals with school children finds rate of defiance at its extreme high even in the remote areas. He adds that there are very few tools available with the practitioners. One such tool to counter anger is spiritual learning. Contemporary education system is going away from devotional learning. It is becoming too much materialistic.

Teaching kids the divine essence of spiritual texts can act as a strong motivating force towards anger management. Buddha postulates that holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. The children should be taught to remain contented. Acceptance is liberation. The Gita says, ‘bandhur atmatmanas tasya yenatmaivatmana jitah, anatmanas tu satrutve vartetatmaiva satru-vat’, which means ‘For him who has conquered the mind, the mind is the best of friends; but for one who has failed to do so, his very mind will be the greatest enemy’.

Courtesy-The Statesman (General Studies)

1. Peculiar (adjective): (Different to what is normal or expected; strange.) (अजीब,अनूठा)

Synonyms: Aberrant, Freak, Abnormal, Anomalous,

Antonyms: Common, Customary, Normal, Ordinary,

Example: My uncle is a peculiar man who wears the same outfit several days a week.

Related words: Peculiarly (adverb) peculiar to (phrase)

2. Tumultuous (adjective): (Highly agitated, as the mind or emotions; distraught; turbulent.) (उतार-चढ़ावभरे, अंशातिप्रिय)

Synonyms: Cataclysmal, Stormy, Tempestuous, Convulsive, Turbulent

Antonyms: Placid, Serene, Tranquil,

Example: When the young actress won the biggest award of the night, the audience filled the room with tumultuous applause.

Related words: Tumultuously (adverb) Tumultuousness (noun)

3. Stabbing (verb) : (To wound or pierce by the thrust of a pointed object or weapon (नुकीले शस्त्र सेआघातकरना,भोंकना)

Synonyms: Spear, Penetrate, Incisive, Transfix.

Antonyms: Dislodge, Protrude                                                                                 

Example: She stabbed a piece of chicken with her fork.

Verb forms: Stab; Stabbed; Stabbed;

Related words: Stabbingly (adverb) stabber (noun) Related Phrases-(a stab in the back,a stab in the dark,give it a stab,take/make a stab at)

4. Churning (verb) : (To stir or agitate violently) (व्यग्रता,सरगर्मी,आवेग)

Synonyms: Agitate, Seethe, Moil, Roil, Convulse

Antonyms: Abate, Calm, Subside, Unflustered

Example: My stomach was churning on the day of the exam.

Verb forms: Churn; Churned; Churned;

Related words: (verb phrases) churn out, to produce mechanically, hurriedly, or routinely, churnable, (adjective) churnability, churner, (noun)

5. Intermittent (adjective): (Occurring at irregular intervals; not continuous or steady.) (रुक-रुककर)

Synonyms: Periodic, Periodical, Recurrent, Recurring

Antonyms: Constant, Continuous, Incessant, Unceasing

Example: Since the radio signal is intermittent, I can only hear a portion of each song.

Related words: Intermittently (adverb) Intermittence (noun)

6. Provocation (noun) : (Something that incites, instigates, angers, or irritates.) (उकसावा, उत्तेजना)

Synonyms: Excitement, Incitation, Incitement, Instigation

Antonyms: Counterincentive, Disincentive, Subduing

Example: You should remain calm and not respond to provocation.

Related words: Provocational (adjective) provoke (verb - provoked; provoked)

7. Defiance (noun): (A daring or bold resistance to authority or to any opposing force.) (अवज्ञा, आज्ञाकाउल्लंघन करना)

Synonyms: Intractability, Contrariness, Contumacy, Disobedience,

Antonyms: Compliance, Obedience, Submission,

Example: The police officers ordered the defiant criminal to drop his gun.

Related words: Idioms-(bid defiance to- to offer resistance; defy), (in defiance of- in spite of; notwithstanding),

8. Shirk (verb) : (To avoid doing something especially because of laziness, fear, or dislike) (बचना, भागना)

Synonyms: Avoid, Dodge, Duck, Elude, Eschew, Evade

Antonyms: Accept, Embrace, Pursue, Confront, Incur, Accost

Example: He never shirked from doing his duty.

Verb forms: Shirk; Shirked; Shirked;

Related words: Shirker (noun) unshirked (adjective)

9. Vengeance (noun) : (Infliction of injury, harm, humiliation, or the like, on a person by another who has been harmed by that person; violent revenge) (प्रतिशोध, बदला)

Synonyms: Reprisal, Requital, Retaliation, Retribution, Revenge

Antonyms: Clemency, Grace, Leniency, Mercy, Remission

Example: The murdered girl’s parents wanted vengeance in the form of the death penalty.

Related words: Idioms- (with a vengeance -with force or violence, reatly; extremely.)

10. Splurge (verb) : (A large or excessive amount of something.) (बौछाड़,यकायकबहाव, प्रवाह)

Synonyms: Rampage, Conniption, Huff, Disgruntle, Outburst

Antonyms: Detain, Occlude, Fend, Curb

Example: Since Marie barely has enough money for rent, she isn’t able to splurge on expensive clothes right now.

Verb forms: Splurge; Splurged; Splurged;

Related words: Splurgily, (adverb) Splurgy, (adjective)